So here we go again...the book the Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother...
...now in paperback.
So the author and "the Tiger Mother," Amy Chua in doing the media round again.
Being Chinese, having children and a practicing therapist put me in a position of being asked, "What is your take on this parenting style?"
My honest answer continues to be...
- It will cost you your relationship with your child (short or long run).
- It will cost your child his/her self-identity and self-worth.
- It will cost up to a decade of psychotherapy.
In truth, the book is as stated, a memoir of the author's experience as a parent.
A narcissist at best and an abusive parent at her worst.
Here, her children must act as the direct extension of herself. The control and the forcefulness are the manifestation of her own insecurity and anxiety (IMHO).
The obsessiveness is Not "for the good of the children" but a necessary step to sooth her own internal conflicts.
I believe she is genuinely shocked by the millions of negative reactions.
Another sign of a truth narcissist - "Why would the world have a different outlook than mine?"
A narcissist does not take into account of the "other." It is all about them, their wants, needs, desires, outlooks, goals, etc.
Her latest comment on TV was that now she is a hands off mother. Her job is done. She was "happy" to report that she loves texting her daughter and "forgot" to go to her daughter's college family weekend. She didn't stop talking before the Freudian slip of "...it's too far to drive a few hours..."
Ultimately, she is an ingenious opportunist, controversy will sell books...her book!
So here is my response to her book...
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