I like to talk about Relationship on Tuesday.
(if you haven't figure it out by now)
One of the most rewarding relationships in life is "Friendship!"
To the many couples I work with, I often ask if they "like" each other and if they are still "friends?"
We can at many occasions love the people in our lives. We love for many different reasons, under very different conditions. But I have come to realize that in order for any relationship to be long lasting, the persons must like one another and enjoy each other's company. They must be friends.
Children may often demonstrate the best kind of friendship. They play together, they do things together, they argue, may even fight. But then the next day, they are all better. Kids can easily forgive their friends. Do-overs are almost weekly, if not daily. Children know that they are not good at being friends yet. That's why they make mistakes. But they are also quick to forgive and give second chances.
Grown up friendship needs to be similar. They have to like each other; they must enjoy spending time together. It's important to have common interests. They also have to like doing things together. They often are physically and emotionally supportive; they enjoy the exchanges of ideas and thoughts.
True friendship often validates, affirms, and create positives in the persons involved.
I love watching and secretly observe my kiddies and their BFF. I don't really know if they will be BFF forever. But I do know that "in the moment," they believe it...So seize those "moments" with your friends and make them count!
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